August 6, 2010
How To Go With The Flow On Your Wedding Day
Most couples have spent upwards of twelve months arranging the wedding. That’s a long time. It feels like every conversation comes back to the upcoming nuptials and planning out the details. Significant time and money is invested. So, it’s understandable that we become very attached to the end result. The thing is, couples who revel in their weddings are the people that are able to let go of things to a certain extent - to go with the flow of whatever may transpire. Those who manage this potentially challenging task of rolling with it and who can choose good helpers can actually enjoy their own wedding. Sounds good, huh?. And while Grooms are doing more than they ever have, it is still the Bride who shoulders the majority of the expectations. So, generally speaking, the Bride’s outlook and style are more relevant than anything else. Ergo, ‘Happy Bride, Happy Day’. A calm Bride, which often leads to a chilled out Groom, results in a more enjoyable day, as well as better wedding photography.
Now, this is not as easy as it sounds because there are a lot of people involved. That includes the Bride and Groom, the Family members and the Vendors. Still, the wedding day is mostly about the Bride.
First to the laid-back Bride. You have a real advantage. That is because something will definitely go wrong – which will probably not be anything of any significance. Maybe the flowers aren’t ‘exactly’ what you had in mind. Maybe there isn’t a place card for one of your guests. Maybe your dress rubbed against something and there is a minor mark. Maybe one of your always irritating family members is, surprise surprise, being irritating. Maybe after four glorious days of sunshine, it’s a gloomy wet day. Etc. etc… No worries, mate. After all, you’re just elated because you adore your soon-to-be-hubby soooo much! So, you take it all in stride and revel in your special day. And the wedding pictures will show it.
For the edgy lady, this could be a very challenging day. No doubt you’ll want to be calm and easy. Alas, it doesn’t take much to throw you off. While the following advice apply to all Brides and Grooms, they may be vital for the overly sensitive Bride:
- Delegate responsibilities to someone dependable and reliable, preferably your Maid of Honor. She should take care of most problems, only letting you know if it’s a major decision.
- Have all aspects of your wedding finalized well before the day. Running around the night before is a recipe for stress that will bleed over into your special day. The better organized you are , the more fun you’ll have on the day.
- Visualize ahead of time. Expecting it’s going to be a demanding day, visualize ahead of time to not over-react to things.
- Try to identify worries and irritation within yourself as early as possible so it doesn’t grow out of proportion and develop into something much worse. In short, let it go.
- That detail you are so worked up about… Most likely your guests won’t see or care – unless you bring attention to it. The vast majority of the people there are there for you.
- Family Funny Business. You already know who in your families drove you up the wall (gotta love family). The great thing here is that if there is a certain someone who just gets your goat, you can see it coming from miles away. Don’t permit avoidable outside forces from throwing you off. Own your own emotions and reactions.
- Be open to a change of plans. Rainy day? Be receptive to your photographer’s suggestions because they should be doing their utmost to capture good couple shots (arguably the most important pictures). In short, be flexible. Occasionally, an plan B actually ends up being more interesting than the original.
And what of the Groom? Needless to say, he can also be a Groomzilla, but generally speaking, he is usually trying hard to keep his Bride content – unless he’s a butthead. The wedding day is a concentrated practice session for the rest of your lives together. ‘Happy Bride, Happy Day’ flows nicely into both ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’ and sets the stage for creative wedding photography.